Comments on: Hell is Other People’s Weddings

By: Shinobi

Shinobi — Thu, 01 May 2008 01:49:25 +0000

*snort* DIdn’t you know, I’ve already asked him to be my maid of honor.

By: Arwen

Arwen — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 21:25:59 +0000

From surreals-ville — that new wordpress “related posts” thing is suggesting that this post is related to “10 Questions for Mike Huckabee”… because we know he hearts being a bridesmaid too.

By: Sally

Sally — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 15:04:47 +0000

It’s been a year since my man and I eloped on the beach for $450 and I still get random phone calls from friends thanking me for not having a wedding. I wore a $50 dress and a beach bum asked us for money. Then we ate seafood and drank margaritas for three days. Ladies – if you like your friends ELOPE.

By: shinobi42

shinobi42 — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 01:37:12 +0000

Also, Kate, that post is awesome. You got stuck in my spam filter. Sorry. I would totally sing at your wedding, but honestly, I’m not really that good.

Speaking of which… must… leave… blog… and practice……… aaaaaaaveeeeee maaaaaiiieeaaaaaars hurt Iiiiiiii thiink thaat III aaaaaaam flaaaaaaat IIII hoooooope thaaaaat noooooooo ooooonnnnne nooooooootiiices I hooooooope nooo oooone actually knoows thiis soooooooooong.

By: Bree

Bree — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 01:27:21 +0000

Sometimes it’s good to have friends who are married or single/divorced/widowed with no intention of marrying again anytime soon. The idea of going to a wedding fills me with dread. I have never been in a wedding either.

My mom and stepdad married at the local courthouse. They did it on a weekday while I was in school, so I couldn’t attend (that’s my mom for you). Their new in-laws gave them a reception at their house. We had beer, sodas, a meat platter, assorted snacks, and Mom’s new SIL made the wedding cake. They’ll be celebrating 22 years this September. You don’t need to go into debt to tell the world you’re in love.

By: shinobi42

shinobi42 — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 01:23:36 +0000

I know that I COULD in THEORY just tell everyone to go if themselves. But it’s not usually like I start off with ridiculous amounts of stress. All of this stuff started out very practically with plans far in advance. And as the day got closer and closer everyone around who was supposed to be helping just… fell apart and I get left holding the bag because I just can’t stand there and watch it hit the floor so to speak. It was a gradual descent into madness.

I wish I could just cancel the bachelorette and re plan, but it’s on Saturday, and I”ve already paid for the limo.

But let me assure you that these are mistakes I will NOT be repeating.

By: kristinttu

kristinttu — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 01:13:15 +0000

Oh my goodness! I am getting married in November, and I want to be so understanding with all of my bridesmaids. Your honesty is admirable. I do not want any of my bridesmaids to feel this way. Hang in there! They are in wedding mode and forget that not everyone else is!

By: Julia

Julia — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 22:42:40 +0000

From someone who’s getting married in a year, thanks for this – I want to be the opposite of a Bridezilla, and not stress anyone out, and make sure everyone involved has an amazing time. Please let that be possible!

By: Charlotte

Charlotte — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 22:25:50 +0000

First off, hi! I like your blog a lot, found you through Shapely Prose.
I’m right in the middle of that season of life where almost all of my friends are in serious relationships/getting married/married/having kids. As a single gal who wants to get married by 30 (I’m 22) with very little prospects, being smack in the middle of wedding culture sucks. Planning weddings is a lot of drama (up until a week ago I was my friend’s maid of honor and was heavily involved with the wedding planning). After I get married, I never want to be involved in a wedding again, unless I’m officiating it (I’m in school training to be a pastor).

By: Ally

Ally — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 22:02:43 +0000

I *completely* understand. I’m a “helper” too. In fact a few years ago, when a friend of mine was frustrated with finding dresses for her 5 bridesmaids that ranged in size from 7 to 32, I helpfully suggested, “Gee, you should just buy a roll of fabric and have someone make different dresses in the same fabric!” Guess who knows how to sew? And who ended up making 5 formal dresses in 6 weeks – each in the wrong size because women NEVER give out their actual dress size. And the *one* thing I requested from all the women was to not select dresses with boning, because I didn’t know how to do that. Guess what EVERY dress had? I wasn’t even in the stupid wedding! Plus, the marriage broke up less than 2 years later. Bitter, me? NEVER.

Good luck to you. I hope your friends someday realize how good you are being to them!