I wouldn’t say my office has an environment that is hostile to women. I really wouldnt. Mostly.
We used to have a female CEO, and that was great. We have a female VP of HR and… well now that I think about it, only one lady manager. Most of the company is male, my whole department is, I think we have about 4 women in our 30 person IT department, and probably about 20-30 in the rest of the company. So it isn’t that equal of a population.
It’s not like anyone ever says “Hey chicks go do this stuff because you are chicks and we are men.” But here are a couple things that I’ve noticed that weird me out.
We have a group that plans and throws events for the company. I am a member, I just organized the company picnic a few weeks ago. We have in office events and after work events. We only recently got any male members of our group at all, so things might be changing soon. But whenever we do throw the events it is invariably women who set it up, and women who clean up after.
Two of the women who are super involved one is the Sales Assistant, and one is in Marketing. There could be some kind of argument that these events are part of their job. However, at no point in time are they part of my job, or anyone in accounting’s, or the order entry group’s. Us ladies are the ones who do most of the work. In fact, the only thing the people who help out really have in common most of the time is that we are women.
There was even an event last year where several guys sat around drinking beer in the conference room while we lugged leftovers, cleaned up decorations and picked up trash OFF THE TABLE THEY WERE SITTING AT.
I’ve also seen guys grab food off of our Sale’s Assistant’s trays as she carried them to the cafe. NO offer to help, just taking food off of the tray. WTF dudes? Can’t pitch in a little, but you can eat?
Do I think this makes these guys sexist? Not necessarily. But I definetly think it makes them spoiled fucking brats.
We also have a weird setup as regards filling in for the receptionist during her lunch. Before I get into this I should say that this bitch is really more on behalf of others. I don’t help with this, no one in my group does. Don’t ask me why.
The people who fill in are One Executive Assistant, One person from accounting, and Three women from our Order Entry group. None of these people are men, none of their jobs have ANYTHING to do with answering phones. In fact, they frequently have issues with doing their work around their scheduled time at the front desk as they can’t do work while they are up front, and they are all completely overloaded at their jobs.
Additionally, during the summer we had 2 interns handling the front desk, of the 10 interns we have here, the 2 interns working the desk, both female and blonde. Kindof Squicky, and today, they wanted to go out to lunch together, so who sat at the desk? Our female HR rep, none of the other 8 interns who just happend to be male. WTF people.
Since there is no really process that determines who fills in at the front desk, we can’t really say X and Y are sexist for always having chicks at the front desk. But it’s kindof odd, that with a weird grandfathered in, willing to help out type process we end up with 5 women, who all have totally non admin jobs who end up working the front desk during lunch.
There are more subtle things, like who cleans up in the kitchen, and who goes to lunch with who, who gets invited to the golf outing, but none of it is really damning. (I’m such a ho, a guy was going around soliciting for the golf outing and I got mad at him for not asking me. I made him ask me just so I could say no, I hate golf.)
Anyway, it’s subtle, it’s annoying and it is not my imagination. There may be other things that are worse. I am lucky in that I have a big shiney diploma that impresses people and makes them think I am smart and important for NO REASON AT ALL. So I think I actually avoid the worst of it, I am concerned that there are other women here being overlooked or dumped on for reasons other than their qualifications.
Unfortunately though in an environment where everyone is being dumped on it is impossible to prove that the women are being dumped on more.