Educating the Menfolk- A Bleg
My best friend for my whole entire life is getting married in the spring. I am excited and yet concerned for her because it has been a long distance thing and she’ll be moving away from her friends and family. But I like her fiance which is more than I can say for the other guys she’s dated.
So she’s keeping her name. She’s always been keeping her name. This is not a new phenomenon. I guess he’s still not over it, they are still fighting about it, and he is not forcing her to do anything, but he isn’t exactly supportive. He is also not over telling his mother EVERYTHING. Even if she specifically asks him not to tell anyone. And it seems like he might just be having a bit of an issue with the whole “my fiance gets to tell me what to do sometimes” thing. I dunno.
Since he was raised in a rural environment, and is also in the military, I think he just needs a little assistance to check his privelege. She was asking me for books or something he could read, because she wants him to be on her side, but she doesn’t want to argue.
I’m sure there are good articles around that could help with this. Work is currently my hell. So if anyone has any suggestions, we would both be grateful!