I was reading this great post at racialicious today. It is especially meaningful for me because I keep getting harassed in the scariest way possible on my two block walk from my bus to my house.
Men keep following me in their cars. This has happened a few times now, not a lot of times considering how often I come home. But having a guy turn off a street, or go around the block just so he can follow you down the street talking at you is INCREDIBLY SCARY for me. (I feel like I posted about this last year when a guy memorably told me that I had a “Seriously Big Ass” but I can’t find it.)
Anyway, this keeps happening, it scares the crap out of me. It also upsets me because the men who harass me are invariably black, and I don’t like how this is making me distrust black men (in cars) and having to struggle more with racial stereotypes.
I often wish there was a way that I could communicate to them WHY what they are doing is inappropriate, and how it affects me as a person. And reading this post at racialicious I thought, well, what about business cards, or post it cards that try to get this point across.
There are probably a lot of reasons it is a bad idea to be handing out cards to street harassers. It probably wouldn’t help, they probably wouldn’t read it, but it amuses me to think about it.
Maybe on one side it could say:
“About the woman you just harassed:
Likes: The color purple, dogs, cats,.
Dislikes: Being bothered on the street, especially by guys in cars. Brussell Sprouts, Dieting, being called “Sweetie” or “Darling”
Hobbies: Singing, Knitting, Video Games
Relationship Status: Cohabitating with a very large man, seriously, he’s large, so is my dog.”
On the other side:
I AM NOT INTERESTED
You have received this card because you decided to approach me in an unwanted manner while I tried to go about my day. I want you to know that I was not rude because I don’t like you. I was rude because I have to deal with similar behavior from men every single day, and have decided not to expend additonal energy on men who harass me.
I deal with this so often I’ve had cards printed up. Think about it.
What do you think? what would yours say?